Don't you just love to hear that you are doing great? When someone says that, does it really help you clearly understand what exactly you are great at?

How do you think your children would understand your remark? Or maybe, you are at work and you say to someone, "That's great!" Are you simply just praising the person? How effective is that?

Our children (and our co-workers) need to learn more about themselves, their strengths and how to be effective people in this world today. You can help!

How many times have you had people offer advice when you were not asking for it? How many times have people told you what you were doing wrong?

It sometimes is very tough for parents, to stop and NOT tell their children what they are doing wrong.  If you said, "this is the right way to do something and your way is wrong!" How would that feel? OUCH. If you re-phrase the question or comment.....how could it sound the next time?......Calmly ask, "What might work better in/for this situation?" WOW! You are showing them that YOU value their opinion! Can you imagine giving someone the opportunity to become part of the solution? Could this help you communicate more effectively with your children or with your co-workers? You actually are inviting help, a new solution, a new action step that will lead to empowering your children or your co-workers. Not only will relationships flourish, you will become a positive role model.

What are your children or co-workers doing right? Can you find five positive things each day to tell your children or your co-workers about?... their work, their behavior, their attitude, their hobbies etc?