Did you know there are five actions you can do that will make your communcation simple?The actions are requests, promises, declarations, assessments and   assertions. When making a request you seek the help of someone that you think may help help you. The request envisions a future action from that person. When promising you are competent and sincere about following-through with what someone has asked of you. When making a declaration, you make a commitment to doing consistent behavior that supports shaping your life... to be able to live more peacefully and relaxed. When you make an assessment of something, you make statements that are ungrounded truths that are based upon your own interests and standards. Assertions are statements that you make based upon some evidence you have that will prove you correect. Becoming more aware of these communication actions and their distinctions will improve the foundation of any relationship you have. The first step is to listen more effectively. Do you listen to hear which action is being requested? What can you do to listen and communicate more effectively? Do you encourage a peaceful, hopeful, and a genuine spirit for listening when you communicate? Personal effectiveness is enhanced when you communicate effectively.

Use one ingredient, create healthy habits by adding personal effectiveness (AKA: personal integrity). When you add personal integrity to your lifestyle choices, your self-care habits, and your teachability, you create a foundation for success which rolls into healthy habits. If you use personal effectiveness in creating your healthy habits, what do you think the benefits will be? Yes, your self-respect and honor for yourself soars. Yes, you will be happier, more positive, more optimistic, resilient and hopeful. Yes, you will be that positive role model for co-workers and family members. Yes, you can lose weight. Yes, you align your values with your habits. Yes, you will smile more and create healthier relationships. Yes, you will impact your family, your communty, your work-place, the world. When will you take action and start creating healthy habits for yourself, your relationships and the world?

Personal effectiveness for some people is learned by experiences of life to create their own truth. Personal effectiveness for other people is simple and grounded in their values that they know will support them in any turbulent situation, their own truth. Personal effectiveness is living the seven wise passions as an authentic, self-empowered, and connected human being. Personal effectiveness can be learned as a natural developer or can be taught to anyone who is open to being teachable. Personal effectiveness is 3-D integrity resonating in all your thoughts, feelings, words and deeds through loving kindness. I am sure you know many people in your life who lack personal effectiveness. If you are a natural developer, how have you been able to spread your personal effectiveness to the world? The world needs more of you....and your personal effectiveness.

What are the benefits of worksite coaching programs? Does your employer offer this benefit to you and your associates? Do you want to change the health and personal effectiveness of your employees and the culture of your organization? Making an investment in wellness coaching can and will make changes to your company's return on investment, especially your associates and the culture of your workplace. Making good and better decisions about your health and personal effectiveness can elicit spectacular results at work and in your personal life. Coaching becomes a part of your support for and during all of the activities that you become engaged. To be able to achieve your fullest health and wellness potential, your choices and decisions need to be embedded in a foundation of integrity. Coaching becomes integrated into all your activities at work and in your personal life. High quality coaching programs benefit every organization and permeate the quality of everyone's life. If you are one of the lucky worksites that offer coaching programs, check to see if your program meets these benchmarks. Your great coaches: 1. obtain results because they know you all are competent; 2. listen, because they elicit your best thinking and decision making; 3. get fantastic results because they ask amazingly, great questions full of resourcefulness and clarity; 4. use YOUR information well to support behavior change; 5.tap into what is important to you; and 6. do not give advice often, unless asked. Worksite coaching programs focus on outcomes that are desired and actions that will maximize worksite and personal benefits. Creating positive change in a worksite as a result of each person having the opportunity to be coached, can elicit better decision making with regard to what each person can and will do. Isn't personal effectiveness maximizing one's success for an outcome you want and creating an action you will actually do to create a difference? What will you commit to at work or personally... today? Let me know your successes.

When was the last time you did an integrity check with yourself? I have been given another opportunity to live my best life possible. The morning sky was absolutely beautiful. As I gazed out the window, I could see the sky was filled with a beautiful blue and as the sun was getting ready to surge over the horizon, the white clouds began turning into glorious hues of peach, to orange to gold AND then it hit me. Not only did I awake to the amazing view out my window, but I also lingered in bed with the smell of a skunk wafting through the open windows. That's just how I became aware that I had fallen out of integrity with myself, AGAIN.

I remember, four and a half months ago completing an integrity makeover and.... It - really - felt - GREAT! My awareness was keen and intuitive, my feelings for myself were positive and optimistic. My past was a gold mine filled with connections with a path that was illuminated to show me how and where I developed my strengths. I thought I had been living a fabulous life with bumps along the way... that we each experience in our own way. I thought I was doing great, with my integrity......I keep my commitments to other people, I do what I say, I create terrific relationships with people, I make better food choices, I have fun doing things that have purpose and meaning....for our planet, out of kindness and generosity towards all people....sure the list goes on and on. Does yours? Well, STOP right there! I have fallen out of integrity with myself, AGAIN.

I said I was going to be a website moderator. Oh sure, I checked in every once in a while, hello....what type of commitment is that? Sure I wrote something, read some comments and thought what a terrific idea Dr. David Gruder had in bringing integrity to the fore-front, especially during an election year. I could give you wonderful excuses about how my life activities have gotten in the way of doing my moderating over the last four months... even though I don't use excuses. (..yeah, right..) I'd rather be honest by taking responsibility. (..and I have??) This is exactly where I have fallen out of integrity with myself. Okay, so here I am today recognizing I have fallen out of integrity with myself. I am feeling lousy, humiliation, and not very proud of my previous moderating skills.  My integrity makeover that I completed last February is kicking-in with full force. I really love living a life with integrity. It feels good, I find joy in what I do, I have more energy, I am optimistic and yes, this is the real me, my authentic way of living.

So, what can I do to upgrade my integrity, get back on track and start living my best life possible? Since I have had an integrity makeover, I have the tools to get me back on track. The process is truly AMAZING. First, I recognize this realization of being less than a website moderator is what my issue is. I screwed-up. This is my wake-up call. I now am choosing to forgive myself and honor what I have just re-learned. I apologize and am sorry for the choices that I made of not being the best moderator I can truly be. I forgive myself in my heart-of hearts. I truly love myself and give thanks for having this opportunity to fall back INTO integrity with myself. I now take that huge sigh and congratulate myself for walking the talk again. I will be more mindful and keep an integrity watch on myself daily. I facilitate integrity makeovers and would be honored to teach you how to get back on track. Where have you fallen out of integrity with yourself? Look closer and discover something you would like to change about yourself. What is that thing? How do you want to start feeling each day? Do you want a better relationship with yourself?