Life Coaching Tips Blog
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What do you do to create successful relationships? Are you a class act modeling behavior through your thoughts and actions? What do you need to do to improve your personal effectiveness to expand your awareness? Here are five characteristics that you can embrace which will encourage successful relationships and build confidence.
1. Consciously choose your thoughts and behaviors each day. When you choose and apply your highest standards of thinking and behaviors, you improve your autonomy, you set yourself apart from most people because your awareness is heightened. Your authenticity and honesty are liberated.
2. Create and maintain grace under pressure. Despite any situation you encounter, your ability to remain calm provides a quality of certainty. When you have grace under pressure you provide others with hope that things will turn out okay. People will begin to see you as a confident and courageous leader. This courageousness becomes a part of your choice to live your highest standards. Yur confidence will soar.
3. Be a positive role model and class act. When you choose your behaviors and thinking, other people begin thinking and acting in ways that improve their own standaard of living. You impact your relationships and the lives of others around you. It is through your positive role modeling that your leadership will be illuminated.
4. Develop compassion for humanity. Choosing to cultivate a higher understanding and compassion for others and their failures, enables you to meet people where they are in their lives. Even when you are in a situation that feels like alot of pressure, your ability to be courteous despite what is going on sround you, sets you apart as a class act.
5. Enhance each experience you have. No matter what situation you are in you can transform your attitude making it meaningful for yourself. Your ability to enjoy experiences improves. When you care about who you are with and what you do, following your heart can energize your life.
What do you want to do to improve your relationships? Are you going to imporve your confidence and enthusiasm for living your best life? What is the first step you need to take to discover greater joy? I look forward to hearing about your success.
Do you know what qualities make your personal effectiveness thrive? Is respect one of the pillars of the foundation for your personal effectiveness both personally and professionally? When you respect someone, "that person feels listened to, heard, seen, and acknowledged for who he or she is. Respect is an intangible yet felt quality of a relationship, and a fundamental element of creating a holding environment for growth." says Drago-Severson, Eleanor (2012-10-24), in Helping Educators Grow: Strategies and Practices for Leadership Development, Harvard Education Press. By respecting others, relationships have a better opportunity to be nurtured, grow and can flourish. Eleanor goes on to say, "respect is a genuine invitation for others to shine, to share their gifts and experiences and expertise, and to contribute in important ways that only they could. Finally, in addition to recognizing an individual’s expertise, preferences, and experiences, respect also includes honoring a person’s way of putting the world together." (Drago-Severson, Eleanor (2012-10-24). Helping Educators Grow: Strategies and Practices for Leadership Development.) As an adult, I have become more aware of relationships I had in which respect was lacking. Not only when respect is lacking, in your relationships, being authentic, honest and communicating effectively are challenged and often lacking. What do you need and want to do to improve your relationships? What new awareness has illuminated an opportunity for you to shine? Let me know what you are inspired to do about the relationships in your life.
my life. I am taking another risk (MOOC staff), expanding how and where I do lifestyle/health coaching. My passion... which is motivating and truly rewarding. Normally, I meet my clients in-person or via the telephone. I work with clients, ignite their passion and generate an internal motivation to create change, so they can transform their life. I am now involving myself in a new venue....a MOOC! My inner critic is quiet and I have accepted this challenge in spite of a real possibility of not succeeding. Yes, I have pushed myself into an uncomfortable intellectual situation where I will be learning, opening myself to being vunerable, as the course unfolds each week. This course is much bigger than anything I have challenged myself with and... I have pushed myself there! Having been an athlete all my life, I know I have grit and a true resilient spirit. (characteristics of people who succeed in life) Most challenging, athletic situations I have encountered on the court or playing field have been valuable learning experiences. I have learned to reflect on a technique, skill, play or strategy and then try another approach to become successful. I have succeeded in life because I have learned it is OK to fail, because I have gotten back up and used my emotional and intellectual tools to move on. When I reflect on the numerous times I have gotten back up with perserverance and self-determination, I smile. It really has worked! I have been successful! I continue to believe it is the grit and resilient spirit that is a true predictor of success. I believe I have taken this risk to face any insecurities I may have, be a role model for others to follow, and challenge myself to be even better than I am today. My plan is to be open minded to the possibilities of learning material in a way that is much bigger than me. I do not have the answers yet, although I love the exhilaration of taking an intellectual risk and generating a valuable learning experience. What appropriate risk will you take? Do you have the grit and resilient spirit to allow yourself to fail and then move on to succeed? Let me know what your challenge will be.
Does the success of your personal effectiveness brim with joy and has it unleashed rare opportunities for you? Who's got your back covered? Who's pulling for you when times get tough? Do you have a champion who believes in your potential and is willing to go the distance...for you? As you just read...and did you notice, it is a two way street? You have to go the distance giving something back to the person who is your champion. When there is a win/win situation and both you and your champion are successful, joy and rare opportunities abound.
After meeting with six clients (some new and some who have been working with me for a while), I was reflecting on my energy level...vibrant, energetic, hopeful, thrilled to know a life has breathed a bit easier. I realized helping people discover more about themselves in order to live a better life and become the successful person they dreamed about....makes my success as a coach...that much more extraordinary. Qualities of educating and enhancing personal effectiveness, in each client, extended my reach into their lives with amazing leverage. These people were open to new possibilities and had the desire to build a trusting and loyal relationship with me. I realized I don't just show up and listen, I invest my time and create an alliance. I commit myself to my client's best interest. I finally gave myself that congratulatory pat on the back....my clients need my support and skills. My clients also realize they are learning... they have everything they already need to make the changes in their lives. Again, I reflect and smile knowing I choose to be there... championing each client. They each have decided to join the journey and will go as far as they each choose. As they each unleash the magic of their personal effectiveness, they too will lead others and will continue to take risks to invest in making changes to continue learning and growing. As Victor Frankl said, "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." What progress are you going to make today to improve your lifestyle choices? Which of your relationships needs changing/improving? Is it with food, exercise, your job, your health, your spouse, your friend? What innovative ways will you choose in order to live a healthier lifestyle? Share what progress you make.
ask: what misperception do people have about you? The questions really gets you thinking doesn't it? Another question to see if candidates reflect honesty is: why shouldn't I hire you to our team? This is a challenging question for me, because it challenges me to speak candidly and not just focus on the positivity of myself. When I was asked, what's most important to me about my work? I realized having people become successful, on their terms was an amazing piece to doing the work I do. I realized helping humanity thrive and enjoy the journey was so important and one of my core values. Have you been asked to describe a recent project and how you followed through on an innovative or creative project to make it successful? Then....to be asked: how could you have made this project twenty times better? It makes you really think in a different way than simply talking about your success. Have you ever been asked what your parents have taught you? My mind rushes to thoughts of unconditional love and such, although resiliency and learning from my choices hits the spot. So, the next time you prepare for an interview, for that job you always wanted, reflect on your answers to the above questions. Or, if you want to hire your most outstanding candidate, consider going deeper into who your candidtae is and what values they bring to your organization. When you get rejected for your position you applied for.....would you stand up for yourself and make your case known again with out becoming defensive? If you have the opportunity to interview in a group, can you tell the group who you want to work with from the group and reasons why? When you choose a top candidate, candidly state their top qualitiies and what inspires you... the chances for getting your job are enahnced. It reveals who is threatened and who is inspired to learn and grow. Let me know...How did your interview go? What did you learn about yourself? How were you successful?